Date for the Right Reasons

So, you’ve been out of the dating game for a while.  Maybe you are divorced, or got out of a rough dating relationship, ended an engagement.  You might take a few months, or even years before you decide to get back out there.  Here are a few reasons not to start dating:

  1. Your friends are trying to force you to get back out there.
  2. You want to make your ex jealous.
  3. You think dating will give you a self-esteem boost.
  4. You’re lonely.

Now, here are some reasons you should start dating again:

  1. You are ready to take another shot at love.
  2. You are over your last relationship, and truly ready to move on.
  3. You want to go on fun dates, with no pressure.

It’s important to wait until you are ready to date, not rush out there because well-meaning love ones think you’ve been alone too long.  After all, you are the one who will have to deal with the ups and downs of a new relationship.  Your friends and family can give advice, but ultimately you make the decision when to get back out there.

Dating should be an enjoyable experience.  Sure, there’s some stress involved.  Opening up to a new person can involve some anxiety.  That’s normal.  But, if you’re literally sweating and having panic attacks, maybe you’re not ready.

It’s ok to spend a little more time alone, going out on girls’ nights, and getting to know your beautiful, intelligent, powerful self all over again.  Each individual is a complete person.  We don’t need another person to complete or validate us.  Love yourself, or nobody else will.  That’s not exactly true, but a bunch of people have said it, and it kind of makes sense.

Instead, I like to say love yourself and you can love someone else better.  You won’t take out your frustrations, fears, insecurities, etc on them.  Don’t look for someone else to make you feel beautiful.  Look in the mirror everyday and see it.  YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!